I’ll Be Happy When… Syndrome

Try finishing this sentence. If I could only have [XYZ], I would finally be happy.

For some, the answer might be a new home or car. Others might picture a big move, a promotion, better health, or a stronger relationship. The problem is that this kind of thinking does not hold up. Research shows that whether events are positive or negative, they rarely make lasting changes to our overall happiness.

This is explained by hedonic adaptation, often called the hedonic treadmill. After good news, people feel a rush of joy. After bad news, they feel a dip in mood. Yet before long, both groups return to their natural baseline. In other words, we get used to almost everything.

If life events do not permanently boost happiness, then what does? Studies suggest small, intentional practices can make a difference. Spending money on experiences or on others brings more fulfillment than buying things. Adding variety to everyday routines helps prevent boredom. Taking time to slow down and truly savor what you enjoy can stretch moments of happiness further. These choices may not be dramatic, but they can lift your baseline in meaningful ways.